Blessing of the Hands Unity Ceremony

Blessing of the Hands Unity Ceremony

There are two ways that our wedding officiants incorporate in a blessing of the hands unity ceremony into a wedding ceremony.

The first way is to have the couple participate in a traditional hand-fasting.  The hand-fasting ceremony is right before the end of the wedding ceremony.  The couple can choose to have both of their hands tied together, and then untied before their pronouncement.  Or they can choose to have one hand each tied together, be pronounced husband and wife, and walk back down the aisle together with two of their hands still knotted.  Neither way is wrong and we leave it up to the couple on what they prefer.

The hand-fasting ceremony is an ancient Celtic tradition.  There are many versions of the ceremony and it is the origin of the phrase “tying the knot”.  There is not a certain type of fabric that must be used.  Ribbon, silk, rope cord, etc. are all good choices.  The fabric must be long enough to complete the ceremony.  We recommend at least 3 – 3.5 feet.

The second way is to have the couple face each other matching right palms and then left palms.  The wording of the blessing is very similar to the hand-fasting except there is no mention of tying knots.  The focus is on the hands.  For example, here is a piece of the blessing:

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.                                                                                                                                                                                               These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.


The hand blessing ceremony can take the place of a traditional prayer for those couples wanting a secular ceremony or to add a uniqueness to their wedding ceremony.

Do you have questions about our officiant services and the custom ceremonies we create with our couples?  Contact us here!

-Leah Dugan